Mid-week Motivation: Learn how to Reduce your Anger and Increase Resilience

Lately, it feels like we’re taking steps forward in returning to normalcy from what it has been the past year. But then something else in the news knocks us several steps behind. The back-and-forth of these events or situations can be tiresome and angering at the same time.

But I’ve found some helpful methods for keeping my emotions more stable and relaxed. I hope they can benefit you as well!

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  1. Get good sleep. I’ve found if I rest up well, I can almost always handle my next day.
  1. Exercise outside if possible. A short walk, or other exercise activity outdoors, following dinner can be restorative.
  1. Make a list of what needs to get done. Forgetfulness is common during stressful periods.
  1. Play the games you enjoy. Simple games like jigsaw puzzles, checkers, or sudoku are relaxing to play. We enjoy bingo online with our kids in New Zealand.
  1. Learn to notice, catch your anger, and then take constructive action to reel it back in. Becoming aware of frustrations is the first step toward better anger management.
  1. Notice when you need to take a break from friends and family. Distance yourself for a time in order to calm emotions.
  1. Call a trusted safe friend to talk about your feelings. Often, this is all it takes to help get a better perspective on events of the day and how they may have affected you emotionally.
  1. Slow your breathing. Inhale, and then exhale slowly. Many doctors and mental health professionals suggest slow diaphragmic breathing for 10-15 minutes is good for your brain as well as your general mood.
  1. Circle back” with friends or family when your reactions with them may have been a bit “snippy.” Find time to re-gather with them when your emotions are more settled, collected, and calm.
  1. Schedule an appointment with a professional mental health clinician if your anger is starting to significantly affect your life (i.e., panic attacks, increased alcohol/drug use, abuse, depression, anxiety, self-harming thoughts or feelings).